Recently, I read an interesting discussion that focused on a person’s living environement— usually a town, city, region—and how that influenced their happiness and overall quality of life. Basically, the question came down to are you living in the right place or not? The initial topic was geared toward professors who relocated to areas for their career and tenure possibilities. The dilemma explored whether living in a location that was sub-optimal was worth it for the sake of work and career.
There was acknowledgement that it is ok to make compromises and be flexible especially when it comes to having a job or thriving in a career. Sometimes, people grow up in a location that they just accept and enjoy and never consider leaving. And that’s ok. You might be in a location that initially you think is “ok” but then learn to like, maybe even love.
I currently live in an area that just isn’t my speed. Ironically, it’s ranked as one of the top five places to live in the U.S. top shelf schools, access to great medical care, ton’s of shopping and food options, and lots of cultural activities. But it’s just not for me. No bike lanes or inviting sidewalks. No shady streets or avenues with oak and maple trees older than 20 years. Cookie-cutter communities with names like “Cambridge Meadows”, “Tree Lane knoll”, and “Brookdale”. Funny thing is, there are no meadows, knolls, or brooks in those areas. My magical location from a few years ago had lots of bike lanes and drivers who were alert to them. Within 10 minutes from where I lived, I was in open farm country. I was entertained on my commute by the different eclectic neighborhoods and the oddly painted houses.
The question becomes “are you living in a place be it town, city, suburbs, or even a region that seems to fit you?” Does it provide you with enjoyment, energy, and overall sense that this is your magical place?
It’s easy to downplay the power of place as an academic. Location may seem irrelevant compared to academic tenure, a good paying job, affordable housing, and proximity to family.
If you end up stuck in the wrong spot, remember to have self compassion. It might be uncomfortable to admit that you aren’t thriving where you currently live.
It’s OK to bend the trajectory of your life toward such a place. It’s OK if what you thought was your passion does not sustain you everywhere. “Place” can permeate your life thoroughly. Don’t accept life in the wrong spot. There can be places that are YOUR places, where you thrive. Where you belong.